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Life: Quote

Life is a gift to be given to those you love every moment, time stands still for no one. ~Tilly Rivers~



Connecting the Dots

I recently started writing “Connecting the Dots” stories and history about my family.

For those of you just following my blog here is a fast recap: I have lost both of my parents, and have decided to write this book- story- Novella—?? called Connecting the Dots {Sorry not sure what it will turn out to be} as a tribute to my parents….see…I told you it would be fast! ~smiles~

As I write I am not sure if it is helping my healing process for it certainly stirs up lots of emotions, but what I do know is that despite the weird, despite the secrets and the drama, despite the fact that my family would make an AMAZING soap opera and out do any reality TV show out there- ~smiles~ – I have rediscovered just how much I LOVE my family.

Tilly RiversI love you because you are weird and wonderful!

I love you because you are part of me.

I love you…just cause….love is love and family is family!

I never say; I love you too

I don’t do it. I refuse to say it….

I’m not a big believer in “also’ defined “as well, besides, or in addition too

When my son says I love you, I say I love you back, or Love you!

When my guy says I love you, I say I love you more.

When my brother says Love you, I say love you brother mine.

When my daughter says Love you, I say love you baby girl.

When my sister says Love you…

…you get the picture.

You may express your love differently, for you saying I love you too, has a different meaning, and I get that- not judging, just saying that for me – I never say I love you too, and this is the reason why.

Love you

All Writers Are Crazy

Tilly Rivers: Crazy

Tilly Rivers: Crazy

There are times when a writer wonders if anyone is reading what they wrote. This must apply tenfold for bloggers. Sure you have followers and such, but I will be the first one to admit, I INTEND to read the blogs I follow, but more often than not I press the ‘delete’ key instead. {sorry}

I have never worried about that much; people reading what I write- if they do I am blessed, but if they don’t…{shrugs shoulders}.  I am not trying to sound egotistical; please don’t take that statement the wrong the way. I mean, I write, because I need to- it is more about getting the words out, the stories out of my spirit, my head- than who is going to read them.

Does that make me crazy? Probably.  I’ve also thought I walk a fine line between sanity and a little ‘screwy”.

Insane means “in a state of mind that prevents normal perception or behavior…” well Ladies and Gentleman  very rarely do I see “normal perception.”

How boring is that? To always colour inside the lines? To paint a sky blue and grass green? The truth is, when was the last time you saw a ‘blue’ sky?

The sky can turn a multitude of colors such as red, orange, purple and yellow (especially near sunset or sunrise). Some of the natural phenomena seen in the sky are clouds, rainbows, and aurorae. Lightning and precipitation can also be seen in the sky during storms. Birds, insects, aircraft, and kites- The sky turns dark at night… so how can you say the sky is blue?

There are I suppose a million and one clichés out there to describe  the opposite of “normal perception” such as – “He walks to the beat of his own drum” or how about the most common phrase in today’s society —“thinking outside of the box.”

I think a writer has to be abnormal- we, after all create worlds that only exist in our minds, we tell stories about ‘people’ that aren’t real;  we speak of fantasy and “make believe’ as if it is real, and for a time, while we write it IS real.

I’ve often been asked in interviews what I think makes a great writer, and I say; “All writers are crazy, to some degree. There is a reason for it — actually making it through a novel almost requires it. If you love to read, then you’re continually benefitting from other people’s craziness.”


Welcome 2014

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A new year is here. I haven’t been blogging much. Haven’t for that matter been writing at all.  Awhile ago I decided to go back to the corporate world, needed a change.

I was, and am- thankful for the fans, readers and supporters of my past works. I was blessed to be a successful author, and I owe it all to you- my readers.

Lately, I have found that I truly miss writing- the stories inside me scream to be let out- circling inside my spirit, and in 2014- at long last, I will be doing more writing. What does that mean exactly? Truthfully I have no idea, another book? Maybe. Another story or ten? Probably. Blogging? Yes!

I feel so excited- and much more like ‘me’ when I am writing. I am not sure if that makes sense, the change I thought I needed and wanted, wasn’t the complete picture.

I had my reasons for needing a break from writing and one day may write about those, but what I have discovered is that life doesn’t have to be either/or; black/white- that those amazing shades of grey in between are really where I am meant to be.

Life after all is a venture, and you need to LIVE it!

So here is to 2014 and the amazing wonderful adventure ahead!

Holy Crap It’s Hot Out There!

Hot nuf to fry an egg!

It’s a hot one in the city! Hot enough, as they say, to fry an egg! Well..I’m no myth buster, so I’m not sure if you can in fact fry an egg on a hot sidewalk or road, but it’s hot all the same.

Personally I’m loving it, I love the heat, I’m a summer baby, but I also escape from time to time inside to a nice cool air-conditioned house as well. ~smiles~ today though, they say it’s gonna be an even hotter of the hot days. These must be the dog-days-of-summer! Ever wonder where that phrase came from?

Dog Days” (Latindiēs caniculārēs) are the hottest, most sultry days of summer. In the northern hemisphere, they usually fall between early July and early September. In the southern hemispherethey are usually between January and early March. The actual dates vary greatly from region to region, depending on latitude and climate. Dog Days can also define a time period or event that is very hot or stagnant, or marked by dull lack of progress. The name comes from the ancient belief that Sirius, also called the Dog Star, in close proximity to the sun was responsible for the hot weather.

The Romans referred to the dog days as diēs caniculārēs and associated the hot weather with the star Sirius. They considered Sirius to be the “Dog Star” because it is the brightest star in the constellation Canis Major (Large Dog). Sirius is also the brightest star in the night sky. The term “Dog Days” was used earlier by the Greeks (see, e.g., Aristotle’s Physics, 199a2).

Dog Star: Sirius

The Dog Days originally were the days when Sirius rose just before or at the same time as sunrise (heliacal rising), which is no longer true, owing to precession of the equinoxes. The Romans sacrificed a brown dog at the beginning of the Dog Days to appease the rage of Sirius, believing that the star was the cause of the hot, sultry weather.

Dog Days were popularly believed to be an evil time “when the seas boiled, wine turned sour, Quinto raged in anger, dogs grew mad, and all creatures became languid, causing to man burning fevers, hysterics, and phrensies” according to Brady’s Clavis Calendarium, 1813.

The modern French term for both this summer period (and for heat waves in general) “canicule”, derives from this same term. It means “little dog”, again referring to Sirius.

In Ancient Rome, the Dog Days extended from July 24 through August 24 (or, alternatively July 23-August 23). In many European cultures (GermanFrenchItalian) this period is still said to be the time of the Dog Days.

The Old Farmer’s Almanac lists the traditional timing of the Dog Days as the 40 days beginning July 3 and ending August 11, coinciding with the ancient heliacal (at sunrise) rising of the Dog Star, Sirius. These are the days of the year when rainfall is at its lowest levels.

source: Wikipedia

So here we are right dead center in the middle of the ‘dog days’ and man is Sirius a-barking…~giggles~ I couldn’t resist!

Love & Hugs