Ten Sex Tips For Men

Tilly Rivers
© Copyright Protected, 2009, Tilly Rivers. All international copyright laws are in full effect.

First off, you need to know that I am not a sex therapist or an expert of any kind; these are observations from my own personal experiences and ‘girl-talk’ from others.

The MOST IMPORTANT RULE: ASK and: never do anything that both of you are not open and comfortable with, than Ask. And ask again…..

1. Focus. When a woman feels beautiful, she acts, becomes beautiful. Her confidence f8a7f7ba873d1c45148cca33406cf606grows, her boldness& daring elevates. She is not scared to reveal (in her mind) those knobby knees, and not so cute elbows. She feels beautiful from the inside out.

2. Time. Taking the time to explore the ‘whole’ package of a woman will reap many rewards. Caress, feel, and absorb her body. A woman knows the difference (just as a man does) between a selfish “wham-bam’, get my rocks off and  true passion. Sorry guys but  being ‘into’ a woman can never be faked no matter how good you think you are at covering it up. When she feels how much you are into her, she will return the passion a hundred fold. Men can’t visibly see when a woman is turned on or off, as we do not have or lose an erection,  but this doesn’t mean they can’t tell if they are paying attention (point 1 focus), and are taking their time to enjoy her.

3. Communication. Tell her what turns you on. Ask her what she likes. Women as a rule are vain creatures and want to hear how ‘hot’ only she is making you. Again be careful. It is better to be silent if you do not mean it. This can not be faked either. If a woman seems like she isn’t into it, sometimes it is because she is scared of doing the wrong thing, or she isn’t into it, by asking her what she needs you can both enjoy a good sex life.

4. Respect boundaries. If she or he says, that isn’t for me, don’t try to convince them to do what you want, respect their choice, and at a later time you can discuss it. For example, she is uncomfortable with the thought of you going ‘down’ on her, the reason might be as simple as hygiene {your encounter wasn’t planned and she didn’t shower yet and felt self-conscious}, or maybe it is more complicated, however trying to change-her-mind during the act is going to cause bad feelings and neither of you are going to enjoy the experience.

5. Confidence. The tough-tender mixture. Inner strength not outward muscle, the essence of you, not the physical attributes, knowing he is confident, carries himself accordingly is a real turn on for a woman {and ladies- vise-versa}. That isn’t to say that ‘clumsy’ moments can not happen or be fun while having sex, the opposite actually, the imperfect moments can be a great ice-breaker, when you are relaxed, open and confident with your partner you will be able to laugh at these moments and they will become special.

6. Balance. Rough or Gentle? Depends on your partner, the mood and what everyone is comfortable with. Sexual desires shift, and when you know your partner well-you will be able to sense it. There should be times when you are happy to let him do every thing and others when you need control. Great sex can be wild but never cruel. No one can be a good lover if they do not regard their partner as an equal. Ask- are you okay with this? Don’t assume.

7. Presume. Never think that what excites one will work just as well for another. Each lady is different (same for men), sure the main ‘parts’ may be the same, but the ‘sensitive or trigger zones’ will vary.

8. Breasts. A lot of men still do not understand about breasts. They hurry. For some women her nipples are a direct hotline to her clitoris, for others not so much. Remember point two? When you take the time to get to know a woman’s body you will discover her hot buttons, which may or may not be her breasts.

9. The butt is recorded to be a major erogenous zone in both sexes. This requires stronger stimulation, holding & kneading, {slapping- if comfortable}. If you have completed points 1 to 7- this is a no brainier.

10. Skin/Touch. Fact: The smell and feel of a man’s skin probably has more to do with the attraction / repulsion than any other feature. Skin stimulation is a major factor. Touch. Texture. Temperature. Taste. Goes back to point two.

Women aren’t as complicated as you may think, just like a man, they want to feel sexy, wanted and desired, they DO NOT want to feel used. If you aren’t truly into that person, and have a ‘you’ll do’ attitude- do me a favour- walk away- I’m not talking ‘forever-after’ here, no one is expecting you to have a relationship with, or get married- just because you have sex- I’m taking RESPECT, I’m taking true desire, I’m talking passion.

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